May 2018

Love Them Unconditionally.

Love them Unconditionally. Love them as they are, because they have the right to live their own journey and to go through their own steps, and things, and joy. 

Love them unconditionally, even if this means moving on because today, your versions of love are different, and what they seek is not what you want. 

Love them unconditionally, even if they didn’t do the right thing, for you. Love them anyway, because they didn’t have to do anything for you, actually. They are traveling this road called life as they wish, you see, and this is their perfect birthright to choose for themselves whatever way they want to love, to live or to be. 
Love them unconditionally, and as they are, but please don’t forget yourself. 
Don’t forget yourself, and your heart and, the way you deserve to be loved, cared for, talked to and looked at. 
Love them as they are, and don’t blame. Don’t blame because, in this life we all have all rights to behave the way we desire and, you see, your responsibility is yourself and only yourself, not changing others, neither their hearts. 
Love them as they are, but don’t forget. The way you, yes You, you deserve to be seen, embraced, talked to, cherished, loved, hugged, received, listened to. 
Love them as they are, but don’t forget to move on, to continue your journey, to honour your tears and the time you need to come back and, the beauty of the stories that could be books without existing and, please love them but love Yourself so much that you keep yourself on track. 
Love them, but from afar. Like gardeners love their flowers, like parents love their children when they now live a thousand, a million miles away – to live their own lives. 
Love them, even if you thought things would be different. 
Love them, if it hurt you maybe even more than the way the sun shined, tall and bright, the other day. 
Love them, even if you couldn’t understand, even if your mind failed to see. 
Love them, even if it could have taken another turn, even if it could have been great. 
Love them, and don’t blame, but please choose Yourself. Because you are the most beautiful flower, your most precious art. You are your own garden, and you see, such a masterpiece needs to be loved right, seen, respected, received, listened to, cherished even as what’s best – as the most precious poem, as a wild summer song, as the smell of the woods after the rain, as your best friend would smile at you, tonight, as cities are photographed when the sun sets, & as life has made you, pure, and beautiful and tall and kind and wild. 
Love them, because this is their life. 
Love them, but please, don’t forget yourself. 
Love them, but know it is you, the beauty, the flower, the poem, the adventure,
The Christmas tree, the song. 
Love them, and don’t blame, and even don’t analyse – what they do, their choices, the way they live and behave and all that – but, on this journey as you walk further, and let them in and talk and connect and everything, always remember,
Ultimately,
If there is ever a Choice to make, 
To Choose Yourself. 

Services Offered For Twin Flames

Dear Twin Flames,

I was asked lately about the services that I currently offer for Twin Flames.

I offer Guidance Sessions of either 30min or one hour – with a suggested donation of respectively 40€ and 55€. They offer a safe space to share, acknowledge your experiences and the steps of your journey as well as receiving intuitive guidance and insights about the Twin Flame healing path in general.
Those sessions allow to focus on your own personal situation and be guided to move forward in it… as well as replacing things and events in the wider context of the Twin Flames relationships.
I also offer Readings. Those are based on your situation after you’ve shared part of it with me through email. They are directly sent to you in the form of a recording. The suggested price Readings is of 35€.
For both Sessions and Readings, I also pull cards which provide additional insights for this moment in your journey.
In order to book, please use the Contact form – or write me directly at sophieanna.gregoire@gmail.com.
Much love and blessings on your path,
Sophie

But if you ever wonder why it happened that way, why it has been that difficult and strange sometimes, you will remember. You will remember that they did it for your Soul, for the revelation of Yourself and for your growth. To trigger your sacred expansion, to make you Become your highest You.

It’s a soul contract, a partnership… concealed behind some twists & turns of love. A blessing of the Sacred, disguised underneath failed crossroads, behind silences.

A blessing of You, remembering you. Such a magical, improbable task in fact… but not, truly not, a disappointed work of love.

A Tale of Time, Forgiveness & Love.

When you’ve found Love for those who Hurt you the most, those who left the most scars on your skin and disappointed to the deepest the light of your eyes, would they be a mate, your mother your father or any of your soul — you can feel the joy of knowing that the Heart has opened loads.

When in your heart, about them & in time, love has ended up winning over the memories of hurt, of struggles, misunderstandings and even worse.

When in their heart, an understanding of when you couldn’t understand before and the art of forgiving you, wins over what you said wrong in the past of your dark moons.

When in a connection the strength of love, the importance of sharing space, of giving, of not repeating what happened before when we were all triggered, perhaps too wounded or sad and when we couldn’t take a step back to understand another fully — ends up becoming bigger and much more important, relevant, than the images of what happened.

When Love and Forgiveness, ultimately win over the memories of where we failed and hurt each other — we can feel the joy of knowing that so much has healed, and changed, and grown.
The joy of feeling that hearts have opened like precious flowers, flowers who might have failed their art of colours without this delicate, painstaking work of love, forgiveness and time – flowers which needed years to bloom, that no one gave up on because they mattered to all.

Processing the feelings… yet not growing expectations or chasing.

There is a fine line to find as we navigate the Twin Flame Journey. 

Allowing feelings to surface, listening to them, letting them flow through the heart as well as releasing the heaviness matters and « should » be done as it allows the healing of the heart and the progression of the journey.

It allows the release of « negative » or « karmic » energetic layers and therefore should be allowed and embraced — so the deep healing of the heart that we can access through this Twin Soul journey, such a rare and potent catalyst, is not postponed or blocked.

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However, we can do this without chasing, clinging or attaching.

We can allow the feelings to surface when needed without going to our counterpart from there.

We can allow what has to be listened to within to be heard, without transforming this into a potential « reunion », new expectations or fantaisies, or the landing of an immediate fairy tale relationship. 

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I’ve found in time through experiences and by working with clients that this journey is not black and white, in the sense that « fully dismissing it / running away from the feels » AS WELL AS « living for it / attaching to it / closing our doors to the rest » both end up being temporary states or strategies rather than a stable and joyful ground to rely on as we navigate our journeys.

Sometimes an actual physical reconnection is needed to remind us of the current state of affairs. Who is available, who is not, what issues are ours, how tall the love feels, how disappointing things can be, how strong the bond seems to remain, and so on.

Sometimes it is a calling and strong guidance to write, meet up, reconnect and that is ok and necessary even to actually see more truths, and allow deeper feelings to come up and be processed and heal.

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However, it is important to see that both things are possible — first, allowing all that’s coming up because of “it” to come up… WHILE on the other hand not blocking our lives, waiting, expecting, making choices for it, being on a standstill on our own individual paths, doing things with the deliberate intent to not lose them or to make it happen.

There is a fine line and important difference between « not running away from the feelings » & « attaching to an outcome or chasing ».

Sometimes, processing the feelings doesn’t even require to be with, connect to, talk to. It happens, will happen, with us focusing on it through our lives or not.

The journey keeps unfolding, anyway, 

Most importantly because the Journey is Within. 

The Twin Flame journey always keeps happening, evolving and shedding within ourselves.

This is not something we will forget about if we don’t organize our lives around it.

This is not something we have to deliberately work for with them, or in connection to them.

This is something we can work for and do our best for, with Ourselves only, within ourselves only & therefore also when living our lives, adventures, and moving forward our own individual journeys freely.

This relationship is not something we have to force ourselves to work for or commit to — it just happens and unfolds according to the inner work travelled and done by both parts. 

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There is a difference between not running away from, and not chasing or forcing — and this is the Key we have been looking for. 

Sophie

The Twin Flame Journey, Or Climbing Energetic Floors.

Dear Twin Flames,
I’d like to share with you today a deeper explanation and insights about the Twin Souls Journey, and to see its process as Climbing Floors always Upward and toward one soul’s healing.
We will also read about what is a Love that we all Deserve.
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As Twin Flames meet, reconnect, date, separate, date again, rekindle, and part ways over and over sometimes until it is Time — many layers are actually experienced, explored and lived through those moves.
We see it as a constant “push and pull” which is true and accurate — however the pull and push itself evolves in its nature as Twin Souls progress on their shared path and journey. 
A first layer that they experience and navigate together, is often time Karmic or even highly karmic — even if it seems that the bond is fully explored because at that time TF are normally actually dating, being together and exploring the Honey Moon phase, it can also be when all the karmic patterns and ways of relating are experienced.
Both individuals show their true selves (authenticity) but also their “worse” parts, if I may so through the bond. Anger, controlling energy, jealousy, neediness — all those behavioural traits that show an incompleteness, or that more is be to learned until a state of Wholeness.
It is a time and shared state when both choose to remain in the connection and therefore allow “unhealed” traits and behaviours to resurface, rather than separating. 
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But as time goes, and even if it seems to be the opposite, Separation is actually healthy and showing the inner progression and healing of both.
One may choose themselves first and therefore stop “chasing” or needing, and be intuitively redirected to building themselves, joy and fulfilment first and on their own, as it won’t come from anyone else — even from the one who seems to be the greatest one, the Twin Soul.
The other one may fully see the truth of the situation and deciding to let go of the other part instead of playing a controlling game of maintaining a bond even when knowing that they can’t give or offer to the other what they want and deserve. Instead of trying to maintain a connection because it is beautiful, better than nothing, because that we could see later or because it is flattering — this part of the soul actually chooses to release it fully rather than control, keep or manipulate.
By releasing two opposites yet deeply connecting patterns and “wounded” ways of relating, Twin Souls separate AND actually climb floors, on their own, toward more growth and healing and until a new reconnection at a Higher Ground is possible. 
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This is leading us to this initial idea I wanted to share with you.
Even if separation and nothingness is often times what happens on this journey, and it can “feel” or “seem” sad or unfair, it simply plays the purpose of allowing the growth that is needed.
Therefore, I’d encourage both parts to not allow anything they think and feel is not True Love from their counterpart, and part ways if necessary until it doesn’t feel “right”. 
I’d encourage both parts to not settle in the TF relationship)as long as what is happening between both feels unfulfilling and doesn’t correspond to the way they “want to be loved”.
I’ve seen that some Twin Souls, in order to preserve a bond when the other part is back in their physical reality, may “settle” in the form of relationship that the other part offers even if it doesn’t feel fulfilling and if it isn’t what they actually want. They think that this is better than nothing, and that we’d rather not lose such an important, deep and strong connection.
But settling for “less” than we think we should receive love-wise in this life shows a lack of respect, love and commitment to the Self. 
We are here to learn that Unconditional Love is actually two different things — yes it is understanding, forgiving, being compassionate, loving and respectful toward Another – yet it is also doing exactly the same for the Self… and in that sense drawing the right boundaries for self-love and self-alignement, while continuing to love no matter what.
We can love deeply, beautifully and strongly while not being with. Learning to draw the right boundaries with people is actually walking toward one’s own healing and wholeness… which is exactly what we are looking for and aiming at on this journey. 
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From my experience, it is always best to release a given type of relating if it doesn’t feel right —  knowing that if that is what the Stars have decided, a new level will appear sooner or later when both parts have done the work. 
By releasing any ways of relating that are not “true love”, Twin Souls actually progress on their journey toward the destination, which is wholeness and healed behaviours in love.
The shared energy leaves a given floor, it is not stuck there… so it evolves to reconnect later from a higher ground. 
On the opposite, if the energy remains on a “wounded” floor, then it can’t evolve.
To reconnect from a Higher and Lighter perspective, less karmic and more healed, Twin Souls need to let go at every step, layer and floor as long as what is actually physically happening is not right.
The Twin Soul relationship has to be by the book in that sense — would you allow this or that behaviour from “anyone”? Sometimes not. We allow because it is “them”. We allow because we crave for that love and the depth of the connection, but allowing too much of what’s not right can’t allow a journey to progress and may create an illusion — the illusion for the other part that behaving in that manner is “right”… which is not healthy for them, neither it is for the other individual. 
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What is a love that we all deserve? 
A love that sees us for Who we are. They acknowledge our Strength, don’t dismiss it but accept us in all our gifts and beauty, and energetically support us as we are. Nothing is too big, too beautiful. It is also a love that sees our Vulnerability. It doesn’t fix, or try to heal us but it accepts the way we are, the way we feel and what we need to do in order to release and heal.
This love also Gives & Receives in balance. This love doesn’t deplete.
This love isn’t controlling, doesn’t threaten or force. This love knows No Game of love, of seduction or of power struggles.
This love gives because it loves, knowing that they will receive but not deliberately in order to receive.
This love respects and sees without trying to change, fix or limit. This love wants your joy. This love seeks interdependence. This love wants to grow together, but two on different lanes.
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Until this is not what we see, it is good to seek reconnection with the Self and what this reconnection leads us and guides us to.
Because, ultimately, what we crave for, is always the Self — giving it joy, alignment, fulfilment and the right becoming.