“When I saw you I fell in love, and you smiled because you knew.” William Shakespeare.
Sometimes, some remain out of deep connections because it is hard to both connect deeply, and to not long for.
Hard to intertwine profoundly without melting – hard to share, hear and listen without relying on.
Hard to encourage the rising of the Self through something external, unpredictable, somehow bigger than it – without feeling that fear of losing the Self at the same time.
Hard to connect deeply, and feel – without feeling at all this wave of attachment, of longing. Hard to give, while not knowing what will be received – hard to trust, without being able to know for sure what is trustworthy.
In truth, it is difficult to connect deeply without fear. Without that fear of losing one’s strength, one’s direction. One’s heart.
It is difficult to feel things within -within that beautiful sacred palace of love that we’ve built in efforts and time – because of an unpredictable external.
It is difficult to feel disappointment – without erecting walls as a response. Without going back up in the castle of those queens & kings, living in inner, protected, alone joy.
It is difficult perhaps, but where is Joy if not in connecting, deeply, and feeling seen, all facets
Where do we learn if on our own, if up and locked in that castle. If we choose in this life to swim outside of the pool, and with an armour of ‘already know, already been there, personally out of the practise of the edge, personally out of the experience of diving’.
It is difficult yes, but you might wonder – what was this all about, what was the point, if not in sharing love & learning how to love right?
This piece of writing takes the example of a female person embodying most of the feminine energy of both parts. If the feminine energy is mostly represented in the male side, or another female person if the TF share the same gender, the writing above of course has to be changed accordingly.
It is said that when One changes, in any type of dynamics, the other side changes as well if they desire to remain present energetically. The other side has to adjust and grow, to keep dancing.
In many Twin Flame relationships and connections, it is the Feminine who goes through her “Falling” first and learns to embraces her depth fully. Her Divine partner is often times the greatest catalyst — forcing her to find emotional safety, peace and healing within, to find her personal truth in relationships and life in general, to find herself, to find her path and joy or even purpose. Also, ultimately, to release her attachment to an outcome in life in general… but most importantly in this given situation of the Twin Flame bond.
Magically, as she does so, she releases progressively and in time her attachment to receiving in the physical the attention and visible love of her Divine counterpart. She doesn’t stop feeling or loving, yet she stops needing, wanting, longing.
She releases her need to be with. Her desire to be only with him, and not others. She sees herself attracting new people and new potential romantic connections. She finds her energy again, back fully. She sees life resuming. Her inner feminine has healed enough to rest a little, to be able to shed a little less during the days… and so she can have more time, more energy, to embrace more of her drive, Masculine doing and building side, as before it all started.
She feels safe in life enough to be back, she has healed the hurt. She has recovered.
Yes her life has changed, transformed, people around are different and streets bear different names but, it is still her, with an essence clearly more revealed, brought to the Light, uncovered. She walks again with all of her strength, the stamina of before this Divine encounter brought up the dark and the light — but differently, higher, more magical and free.
As she has healed enough herself, because she went to the End of it, of a cycle or a pattern — she can detach and that is when things have the opportunity to shift.
As she has travelled to the end of a road, checked and double-checked that she has done all she could, expressed all of the words of a loving heart, used the magical tools of compassion, respect, kindness and forgiveness.
As she sees that she has gone to the end of a journey with Him, even cleaned the way of what was said and done before and when less aware, when she can really feel there is no more to do or say on that road and so a part of a Path can be left at rest happily and peacefully, with warmth in the heart even, no anger resentment and fear but warmth, peace and a feeling of completion… then things change.
She can truly Let Go, in beauty.
And when she does let go, a Void is felt on the other end of Things.
And this is when, the other side, the Counterpart… is given the biggest opportunity for their own heart opening, and saving grace.
And after, it is in the hands of the Divine mystery, in the hands of the magicians of soul contracts and of individual soul healings… They will catch the train or not, decide to feel at a deeper level and act on their own healing path, respond Yes to the inner call, to the reminder from within… or they will decide to pass their turn. This is for them to feel out, decide, and see.
Who knows, what lies in the hands of Magic.
But, she is Free.
The above piece of writing takes the example of a female person embodying most of the feminine energy of both parts. If the feminine energy is mostly represented in the male side, or another female person if the TF share the same gender, the writing above of course has to be changed accordingly.
We Love people – ‘love’ in its greatest sense, the one which knows no conditions, or time & space limits, but purity, respect and gratitude – as profoundly as they have touched ourselves, as much as they enabled more alchemy and light in the soul, as much as they spoke to the deepest, most authentic parts within.
The more something is denied from us, sometimes from apparent rejection… the more we learn to Love it, and Appreciate it for what it is – without any desire to ‘have’ it or to make it ‘ours’, without any desire to melt with it, without any attachment or need.
And you’ll keep going to them, and feeling and releasing and shedding, and going deeper into yourself through it, and revealing new layers and truths about it — until you reach that beautiful space where you love without longing, where you feel without a need, where you can remember, acknowledge and be grateful, without expectations or desires, without linking beauty, magic, mystery and the importance of a past journey to what could be.
That space where you can move forward and on, but without anger, rejection or blame. Where you can choose yourself, but without judging another’s journey. Where you can have your life and follow your own joy, while not saying at the same time that they were wrong or bad. Where you can take full responsibility and ownership of your path, while not burying a connection or painting it in the colours of hell. Where you can move forward, in all ways, yet be so unattached that you still love. Where you can rise, without belittling. Where you can expand, and grow and find beauty without any link to it – yet you remember, and you won’t say it didn’t matter. That space where you don’t wait or hope, you don’t accuse, you don’t entertain fantaisies – you just keep walking in love.